Sep 02 2009
Confession
I must say that the more I read about certain things the less I feel like a “normal” girl. This makes things very difficult for my husband some times when it comes to gifts, but on the other hand he tends to be grateful that I’m not necessarily looking for the expensive gifts, but at the same time there are those times when he wants to get me something that is jewelry and needs help.
I hear a lot about people wanting to get engagement jewelry and spending a lot of time trying to make a selection and often wondered why they don’t just ask their prospective spouse. I was reading about the engagement ring on Bellatrue and felt a bit ambivalent about a lot of the advice there because we really didn’t do things traditionally when my husband and I got together.
My husband proposed to me before he got the ring, then we went together to get the ring, and when we did we bought a colored gemstone ring, a marquis cut sapphire with two small diamonds around it laid on white gold, so that it looks silvery as I don’t wear yellow gold.
My step-father was mortified when we picked up the engagement ring that we didn’t get a “set” where the engagement ring would fit with the wedding ring, but that wasn’t important to me, what was was being economical. Sure I could have had my then fiancee spend several thousand dollars on a ring but then I would have been afraid to wear it lest something happen to it.
The engagement ring is unusual. I continue to wear it now on my opposite hand because it doesn’t fit with my wedding ring, but I love it so I wear it.
When it comes to other pieces of jewelry I still go towards more unusual things. I don’t wear jewelry often and tend to wear the same few pieces day after day. It’s only a special occasion that will prompt me to up the anti and wear a necklace as well as my customary two pairs of earrings and three rings and I much prefer colored gemstones rather than white diamonds.
So something like this:
is what’s going to catch my eye because of the unusual combinations and styles. I remember when we were shopping for a wedding ring several jewelers were extremely perturbed by my lack of interest in gemstones on my ring. I wanted a white gold band with a little bit of design on it, something with weight rather than the flimsy strips of gold they were showing with tiny sapphires and diamonds in them. I put one of them on and I couldn’t even feel it on my finger and that terrified me.
At least something like this:
would have some weight to it, but it’s all a matter of personal preference. I’m just not the type of girl who has to have the latest jewelry.
